Interior designer Ehi Ogbebor has shared candid insights into why her two marriages ended, encouraging women not to remain in toxic relationships.
In a video posted on her Instagram page, the 38-year-old recounted the challenges of her first marriage, which began when she was just 18 years old.
“I got married at 18, and by 20 I was out. I almost lost my son to a deranged, abusive marriage at five or six months. I left in 2007; my son was just 10 months old, and I was only 20 when I ran to Lagos,” Ogbebor said.
She introduced the term “Mumuraige” to describe the emotional strain women face when they lose themselves trying to salvage failing relationships.
“You see a woman with so much to give becoming mentally destabilised because she’s trying to save a marriage for a man who will never appreciate her,” she explained.
Ogbebor said her decision to speak out was partly inspired by a friend’s experience. The friend spent 18 years in a troubled marriage, only to be abandoned by her husband who declared he was no longer interested.
“It is painful. A man she stayed with for 18 years just woke up one day and said he was no longer interested. A man who cannot even afford to take care of his family,” she said.
While acknowledging that marriage can be fulfilling, Ogbebor emphasised the importance of self-respect and recognising when a relationship has reached an impasse.
“I have been married twice. I’m not saying run at the first issue, but women need to know when a marriage is at a deadlock. I’m not saying run anytime you have an issue, but you need to have a brain. You need to learn to stand up and face them,” she stated.
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She also urged women not to tolerate disrespect, warning against wasting years on unfulfilling relationships.
“Don’t allow these men to just think you’re a piece of trash and just talk down on you. You’re going to look like a weak mother. Don’t waste 10 years, or 17 years of your life. Who told you your soulmate is not one billionaire in Saudi Arabia or in the south of France,” Ogbebor said.
Prompt News reports Ogbebor’s personal life has also seen public attention. In January 2021, she announced her relationship with Musiliu ‘MC Oluomo’ Akinsanya, the national president of the NURTW, which eventually ended.
