Oh Allah!
Thou art our Patron in this world
Thou art our Patron in the Hereafter, so
Cause us to die while we are Muslims and
Unite us with the righteous ones – Amin
When Nana Aisha(r.a) was asked about the character of the Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h)?
She responded: The Qur’an!
That Society desire peace is not in doubt. The challenge is how to create an harmonious environment in order that both weak and strong member experience a Society in harmony?
To be in harmony, people must have to work together. To work together, there must be something to work on. It is only in the grave yard you get peace, deafening peace without team-work!
The Challenge of Harmonious Living:
The way Almighty designed this earth is such that evil do not or rather should not have long life-span. However, when people are benefiting from evil, evil do not stop. The Arms and Ammunition Manufacturers, Importers and Exporters of Apparatus for violence and terror are Traders and Dealers.
Do not forget that if children of the same parents are fighting dirty, the same medicine man will be collecting toll both ways. It is economically good for him as long as your war continues.
It is the same for Nations. Armed Manufacturing Nations will not want us to settle, I remember saying that anyone that advices you to fight is your enemy. This principle operates whether you are right or wrong.
Hatred and Jealousy Breeds Enmity, Beware (Book 32, Number 6205:)
Anas b. Malik reported Allah’s Messenger (p.b.u.h) as saying: Neither nurse mutual hatred, nor jealousy, nor enmity, and
become as fellow brothers and servants of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim that he should keep his relations estranged with his brother beyond three days.
You Should Remember that…
The family is the nucleus of the society. Now you often hear Bachelor saying marriageable Ladies are just not there and you hear Ladies saying responsible Men are not just there. Any wonder trust is scarce commodity in marriages?
Know that every child may grow up, but, not every child will develop. To be a Parent takes more than ability to give belle or capacity to carry belle. Development have to be purposeful and it happens in a settled, peaceful home environment.
Those that claim to be civilized are involved in what is termed ‘live-in lovers’ for years.
However, when the lover boy is tired of the charade, he goes back to his village for a wife amidst curses from the ex-, while she claims she had invested the better part of her life for him.
Imagine this scene 1:
In a setting where the husband is having a liaison with the Housemaid and oga Madam is making out with the Driver, what do you think will be happening among the Daughters and Sons in that kind of setting?
Scene 2:
Imagine another setting where the Mother cooks the food with the assistance of the Daughters of the house, while the Father drops the Finance that maintains the home, the Boys jointly sweeps, clean the house and wash the Cars; while the Children of the home washed the Cloths, the Boys iron the Dresses among other house chores.
In these two settings, which of the houses will you call a home setting?
Let Take a Look into Another Scenario:
The Father drinks, smokes and mingle with Ladies of easy virtues; meanwhile, the woman of the house attend to parties all the while; the party could be both political and social. What do you expect from the children that emanate from such a house?
If your House is as described above, you have isolate your children from the running of your home. You have indirectly tell them that they have no stake in the house. The house can go to ruins so long as food can be gotten from the streets.
When you grow a Population that only think of enjoyment: Drinking, Smoking and Dancing to the blue Danube. A Population that just want to eat, watch film, play games of all sort both electronics and physical sports, is a population of False Ego, not minding the level of paper Certificate obtained.
Insecurity is the bane of most society at the moment. Anybody, community or Nation that is blessed with resources will have envious Neighbors, no doubt. When you are blessed and you flaunt it, you have Neighbors wishing you disintegration. I hope real thinkers are following, I sincerely hope so. If your thinking means having white skin is same as having clean heart, You are far from being right.
Now, transpose what goes on in different homes to the bigger society, then you will realize the enormity of the challenge faced by the World.
The moment you isolate your Child from the running of your home, your house becomes an hotel. When all your Manpower both skilled and unskilled are not from within, well, just imagine how secure a house will be if your driver knows your bank worth and if your house maid knows all the crannies of the kitchen and bedroom, while both of them knows your health status? That is recipe for insecurity.
A family, society, or Nation that has no meaningful plan for itself, will not be able to live in harmony. Harmonious living need working-at. That was the hallmark Islam bequeathed through the Messenger and the early Sahabis. The attainment of peace and harmony is work-in-progress!
The Making of Good Family Relationship: (Book 32, Number 6202:)
Anas b. Malik reported: ‘I heard Allah’s Messenger (p.b.u.h) as saying: “He who is desirous that his means of sustenance should be expanded or
his age be lengthened, should join the tie of relationship”.
Modernity / Ignorance Have Disintegrate The Extended Family
Then it was I, me and myself. With that, People are now dying after “brief illness”
As at now, greed and avarice are destroying Nations, with that..
Death is now as cheap as air. It it’s now free-for-all.
Though people blame everything and everyone self…
If you want increase in your sustenance and
You want your Existence lengthened, then,
Join family ties
Families make up Nation, the beginning of a united Nation is: “A united family”
When You Perceive Your Enemies Are Within: (Book 32, Number 6204):
Abu Huraira reported that a person said:
‘Allah’s Messenger, I have relatives with whom I try to have close relationship, but
they sever (this relation).
I treat them well, but
they treat me ill.
I am sweet to them but
they are harsh towards me’.
Listen to the response of the Best of Mankind(s.a.w):
Upon this he (the Holy Prophet) said: “If it is so as you say, then you in fact throw hot ashes (upon their faces) and
there would always remain with you on behalf of Allah (an Angel to support you), who would keep you dominant over them so long as you adhere to this (path of righteousness).
The Condition for victory is clear: “As long as you adhere to the path of righteousness”.
Take Note of Monday and Thursday: (Book 32, Number 6224):
Abu Huraim reported Allah’s Messenger (p.sb.u.h) as saying: “The deeds of people would be presented every week on two days, viz. Monday and Thursday, and every believing servant would be granted pardon except the one in whose (heart) there is rancour against his brother and it would be said: Leave them and put them off until they are turned to reconciliation”.
Key To Harmonious Living: Book 1, Number 0063:
It is narrated on the authority of ‘Abdullah b. ‘Amr that a man asked the Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h) which of the merits (is superior) in Islam. He (the Holy Prophet) remarked:
“That you provide food and extend greetings to one whom you know or do not know”
Be reminded that the Prophet(s.a.w) said: “All of the affairs of a true believer is good, whenever good time comes, he is grateful; whenever trial comes, he is patient”.
The Essence of Life is to know that: “Harmony is Crucial, Development of self is essential, while Managing Your Challenges is Work-in-Progress. The choice remain yours
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