We are in trying times in the world today. Many stressful events are plaguing the world. This includes economic crisis and insecurity. These come in various shades and colours. It’s quite a challenging moment for the world, thus leading to a high degree of conflicts in relationships. Friends, employers, and employees, including governments and citizens, fight due to the pressures of life.
With this situation, we all need to exercise great caution in dealing with ourselves. This becomes quite needful for married couples, since we cannot afford to ignore ourselves, unlike in other relationships that can be jettisoned, if need be.
For instance, many husbands are going through a lot, including underemployment, job losses, failed businesses, etc. As a result, wives are going through a lot of stress to keep the house running. They have become saddled with responsibilities which hitherto had been solely shouldered by the husbands or jointly shared by couples. That’s in the area of finance. When this is added to housekeeping, the stress is better imagined than expected.
Given this scenario, fragile is the best description of the peace in many homes. It requires great wisdom on the part of both husbands and wives to maintain this fragile peace. This is why all hands must be on deck to ensure that harmony in the marriage doesn’t break down.
How do we ensure that?
Navigating challenging moments
Patience
Husbands and wives have to exercise restraint in dealing with themselves in the face of the pressure of funding for the family. While husbands get touchy due to failure in the responsibility of providing for the homes, wives become easily irritated due to overburdened nature of providing for the homes. The resultant effect is the frequency of conflicts. But, with patience, both can weather the storms of the pressure at the home front.
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Increased couples discussion
Couples must spend more time together in discussion to minimise the risk of mental torture for each other. Depression thrives easily in a situation of lack and inadequacy of financial resources in the house. Couples should therefore be there for each other, to give hope for the future.
Not only that, but the discussion should also cover possible solutions to the state of things in the home. They should spend time planning for a better life for the family.
The discussion must also cover counselling each other against vices and enticements for bad behaviour. They should watch each other’s backs for evil association and communications that will corrupt good manners. It’s a well-known fact that temptation for misbehaviour is high in the situation of financial crisis. Spending time together helps each other’s stability in maintaining behavioural sanity.
Intentional sexual health
In times of crisis, there is a tendency for sex to take a back seat in the marriage. As someone said, a hungry stomach doesn’t easily make allowance for sex. A hungry man is an angry man. Sex will not flow easily in times of crisis. So, each couple must be intentional in engaging in sex. They should encourage each other to be sexually active in this period of crisis. One of the benefits of sex is to relieve stress. So, couples must take stress off by engaging in great sex. It’s time for couples to give each other great sex treatment to prevent a breakdown of their health.
Increased friendly behaviour
“What are friends for?” is a popular saying. Friendship should be taken to full advantage during a crisis. Couples must deliberately befriend each other in times like this. This becomes easier if friendship skills have been learnt by them before now.
God factor must be deployed
Faith in the Supreme Being helps us to weather the storms of life. Couples should therefore take advantage of the God factor in maintaining harmony in marriage in times of crisis. Calling upon God helps to give hope for the future. It helps us to see light at the end of the tunnel. So, if there’s any time to draw closer to God, it’s the time in which we are.
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The season of festivities is here. Couples must come together to ensure that the children have a moment despite the challenges. The challenges shouldn’t make us drift apart. Rather, we should bond together. Remember that together we stand.
My prayers and thoughts for the best wishes are with all couples and families in the light of the present situation, and always.
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