Since my write-up on irregular sex, the responses have been overwhelming. It’s obvious it’s an issue of great concern in marriage. We have been bombarded by husbands wanting more sex from their wives, thanking me for this eye-opener of the danger of irregular s3x.
Apart from husbands who formed the majority in the quest for more regular s3x, it has also been discovered that in the matter of irregular sex, wives also cry. This is because an average number of husbands are also guilty of not making sex regular for their wives.
A wife said her husband was a disaster in the matter of sex because he is always tired of having sex ─ whereas, she enjoys sex a lot. Another one asked if it was proper for her husband to deny her sex.
Why are the husbands not regularly engaging in s3x?
Let us consider the following to unravel the reasons for irregular s3x acts of husbands that are making wives cry out.
To start with, there are two dimensions to the cry of wives about irregular sex acts of their husbands. One is the non-availability of husbands for s3x. Here, it is a case of the man not making himself available for s3x. The other dimension is the non-satisfaction of wives. That is, husbands are unable to satisfy their wives in bed.
The cry of wives implies that infidelity risk increases. The truth is that infidelity, which seems to have become the rule rather than the exception, is one major implication of irregular sex.
Spouses, on both sides of the divide, who are not satisfied have become easily susceptible to extra-marital affairs. The increasing rate of infidelity among wives these days attests to the fact of this matter. It’s not a healthy situation. Thus, it calls for urgent attention.
Husbands should no longer joke with the cry of wives for sex. After all, what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. We must come to terms with the fact that the prohibition of female genital mutilation has made female folks more sexually active than ever before. Females now know the enjoyment derived from sex. So, there is no longer a holding back once it’s tasted.
Husbands must therefore up the game to satisfy their wives.
The ageing process and health challenges are two major factors that negatively impact the s3x life of husbands. I intend to discuss them here in this write-up. Masturbation, poor financial state due to loss of means of livelihood, occupational hazard, and marital conflicts are other factors that could make a husband not to be s3xually available to his wife.
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Finding solutions to each of them will go a long way to address the issue adequately.
I have realised that many men are suffering from erection problems, called erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. These are mostly associated with the ageing process. Only a few exceptions abound in this regard. If in doubt, try and gauge the responses to the many available so-called ‘man-power’ products in the market, buses, and online. The patronage is massive and overwhelming.
If there was no problem with male erection, the patronage would not have been that much. Not only that, in the course of my counselling engagement, many husbands, and even some wives, are making enquiries about how to achieve a strong erection and overcome premature ejaculation. So, the reality of both s3xual challenges is never in doubt.
Health challenges of husbands also hinder the free flow of sex. It’s not a hidden fact that a sick body cannot enjoy or give sex adequately. So, when husbands begin to have health challenges, wives do suffer and cry out for help.
I once engaged a wife who complained bitterly about the poor sex life of her husband due to his unhealthy state. Though not the fault of the husband, the truth is that the wife is suffering for it. It becomes really painful for her because she is not ready to engage in extra-marital affairs. The pain is better imagined than experienced.
Let husbands know that they are not the only ones crying and suffering from irregular s3x. Wives also suffer and are crying as well. Efforts must therefore be made to hear the cry of wives and attend to it promptly.
A wife should not be tempted beyond what she can bear, for constant dropping will wear out even a stone. Let us spare no effort in addressing the cry of wives for s3x. Solutions must be found to deal with the situation to avoid its negative consequences.
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*** First published on September 23, 2023
